When you fall in love, do you really know the person that you are falling in love with? When you fall in love, does your partner or significant other, know who he or she is falling for? In most cases, not. In these contemporary and modern times, love is not defined in the same way as it was retrospectively. When it comes to love, so many people use the term so loosely, not necessarily understanding the significant meaning, bondage, and attachment.

When it comes to love, we all have our own distinct meanings, as to who and what we love. In rare forms, we adopt a deep affection. We love those who love us back. But what happens when love does not work out in your favor and you have emotionally fallen in love with someone that does not feel the same or have lost the love, lust, and sparks that originally brought you two together.

Broken but Mendable

So many times loves does not go right and can play tricks on you. Before love it so powerful, it frequently it vibes and energy can become misrepresented or ill-received. Sometimes you feel as though you may hate yourself and the life that you are living, but that is ok. Sometimes you may lack love for yourself because you have given it all ways to an external mutation. These are normal feelings. Love affect people differently. Some people have hearts of steels and can get over relational and romantic breakups instantly, while others have blubber hearts, those that are spongy and absorbs whatever life throughs in their direction. However, in this case, just as love is absorbed, it can be expunged. The most fragile hearts are the ones that are broken the most frequently, those made of glass or crystal, and even gold, those that are shattered easily and it takes a microscope and a miracle to put the heart back together again.

Let not others determine the strength or fragility of your heart. Yes, loving hard means that you are more susceptible to heartache and heartbreak, but why do we give outsiders the power over our most vital organs, our brains, and hearts, our central control centers. When we allow others to come into our hearts, we feel as though we have developed a certain level of trust and respect for this individual and they will never do us wrong.

You and only you have the power to keep your heart from breaking and to mend your heart in ways that bring it back to life. To increases its vitality and durability for other interpersonal and romantic experiences However, when getting over a situation instantaneously, one may doubt our factual love and claim it to be fake. Not Cool. How are you doubt the love I had for you. It happens.

Falling in love means that we have handed our hearts, a lifeline that has been placed in the protection of other. But, is that really love. Comparatively, when others give us the title to their heart, do we necessarily treat it in the same manner that we’d treat our own. We are our own lifeline. We are the only person that can protect our entire being, mentally, physically, psychologically, and wholeheartedly. This is not to say that you should not give others your heart as a keepsake, but if and when you do, you have the responsibility to check on its subjective well-being frequently. Allow no one to do with your heart as they will. Your heart (and brain) is the most fragile organ, and one simple drop can leaving you lifeless.

Falling in love on short notice does not necessarily mean that you have to hand your heart over to the person you think “the one.” Before we can give our heart to someone else we want to make sure that its as healthy as can be, with no bumps, bruised, or cracks, otherwise it is useless. When we give others a fragile heart, we have just added them into our emotional turmoil equation to where our actions and behaviors will start to reflect what others have done. Thus, they start to take on an unwarranted burden that was brought into their life without any inclusion.

When it comes to our hearts, we must first stop and think about its vitality and longevity. Our heart is a surviving and defense mechanism that will be with us until we take out last breathes. Control it. Take care of it. Allow others in, but don’t allow them to fully possess it, otherwise set ourselves up for heartache and heartbreak, disappointment, and emotional turmoil. When you maintain possession of your heart and build an entry and exit path, you will sustainably possess the necessary tool to resuscitate it and mend it when needed.

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What Do You Do when you have nowhere to turn and no one to lean on?

What Do you do when you are left to fight a grievous battle alone?

Can you fake your own death?

I have been fighting a never-ending battle my whole life.

I have been fighting to be accepted by the society to which I conform, only to find that even in the society that I have given my all to, it has turned its back on me. 

A society that has left me in the middle of the ocean, treading waters, knowing that I cannot swim. 

Leaving me to drown and battle the tides alone. 

There is no lifeguards present. 

There are no life jackets. 

There is no one else in sight, just the person I thought was the most important in my life, my allegedly lifelong partner, out amid the sea, alone. 

Yet, I find myself sinking deeper and deeper into the ocean that surrounds me.

My alleged eternal partner watching with patience as I sink, never to surface ever again, hoping and wishing to eliminate any matrimonial attachment, stresses, and strain that were undesirably contributed to his life.

He is too far away for me to attach myself.

He is an exceptional swimmer.

He does not attempt to salvage me from the liquid suffocation that nearly begets me.

He backpedals, increasing the distance between us. 

I start to sink.

I try to swim.

I descend underwater again, but my nonrhythmic movement menaces, sending me into panic mode.

I notice an unfamiliar sensation under my feet, one that sequentially feels plush, velvety, and panned-out; safe and secure. 

A whirlwind circles me.

I can feel that water spinning and pulling me with its every movement.

I panic. 

I am not sure what is happening

I am not sure how to respond. 

I panic, scanning the surface.

The waters lack transparency.

I only catch a glimpse of rapid movements.

I stare dreadfully at the soon to be widower and see the frightfulness in his face. 

He’s scared. 

He is Just as scared as I am, if not more. 

Something, a mammal type object surface between us. 

A dolphin, flapping his wing, signaling me to grab hold.

I take onto the dolphin’s fin securely, and it starts to swim to the nearest shore. 

I look back, the thought-to-be widow with a dismayed gape.

He starts to swim in our direction. 

Faster.

Faster.

He sinks, too tired to keep going.

He rises, trying to catch his breath.

The water dominates him, taking him under.

His appearance fades as I drift further away. 

He’s gone.

When I make it to the shore, I retreat to land, and the whale goes on his merry way, not expecting a thank you nor treat. 

The whale is chivalrously uninviting to reciprocation.

At that very moment, I feel a sense of freedom.

At that very moment, I feel a sense of relief and independence. 

A weight has been lifted off my shoulders. 

I feel ill-burdensome. 

No more mental nor emotional abuse. 

No more living within the alignment or distal serenity of he who claimed he loved me.

No more will I have to succumb to the matriarch that held me down with all its might. 

No more will I have to engage in self-expiration, I can now be self-actualized. 

No longer will I have to suppress my voice. 

No longer will my thought and actions be overpowered by an ego-manic who thinks that he is the gifts to the world. 

No longer will I be tired and weary.

No longer will I have to sing a song that lacks rhythm and tune.

I have landed on novel territory where opportunities are endless. 

I embrace my individuality to move forward and not look back on something that has held me back from reaching my full potential for years.

I stagger on the hot sands and look out at what is in front of me. 

I am forced to make a decision.

I am forced to make a decision promptly, as I see glaring eyes staring at me as they witness my physical and mental disentanglement. 

In that every moment, I walk in a forward, unobstructed, and liberating direction.

Not once did I turn to see what followed

Not once did I flinch.

Not once did I hesitate or second guess myself.

I listened carefully as GOD spoke silently to my soul and told me to move forward. 

I listened when GOD said he would create a righteous path that will lead me in the direction.

I listened to no one but GOD, who said that he would turn all that was wronged, right. 

I listened to GOD when he said that he is still in control. 

I listened to GOD when he whisperingly said that all that is done is behind you.

I listened to GOD when he said that all that I will now face is the blessings that he has stored for me.

I listened to GOD because I am a true believer of his word and that whatever circumstance you face is based on purpose. It is based on his common goals that will lead you to the life incentives that he has been preparing you.

I listened to GOD because no one else will ever have my heart’s best interest in the way that he does.

I listen to GOD because he will never leave you nor forsake you.

I listen to GOD just because he will always be there without a reasonable doubt. 

I listen to GOD because I don’t need a reason. Because I have instilled faith and because I walked by faith and not by sight.

I don’t challenge his instructions as I go with the flow. 

I have faced several encounters that should lead me to the heavens above or hells below. 

However, it is not your will. It is not your destiny to determine when you go or when you stay.

When GOD says that he is ready, he will prepare you for an instantaneous, unpainful, and glorious arrival. 

When GOD says that he is ready, there is nothing no one can do or say once his decision is made. 

When GOD says that he is ready for your arrival, watch out, because that is when your true blessings really begin, as the earth is only a shifting landscape that you have been birthed into. The heavens are always greater and almightier than anything you will ever experience in your entire lifetime. 

I push forward.

I don’t look back.

I don’t question where I am going, as the path has already been designed for me.

I don’t plan my future because they are humorous to GOD.

I follow GOD in a righteous path blindfolded.

Wherever or whenever he instructs me to stop, so he can reveal what is in store for me, good or bad, to be used as a lesson or to reward me, for I am a child of GOD believing in all that he unequivocally do, I come to an instant halt.

It is his sole purpose that I achieve happiness, as well as those persons he put in my life. 

That day in the ocean, when I thought my life was over, GOD sent his disciple to rescue me from treading waters. An imperfect swimmer, struggling to stay afloat, GOD arrives just in time. 

This is a life lesson for all those in the world who think that GOD is not answering your prayers, he is, but you are not listening close enough. You are not allowing him to take full control. You are not willing to lose something to gain something more significant. 

Life is not about what you have or who you have in your life. 

Life is about living to your full potential and excluding those persons from your life that would leave you to drown in the middle of the ocean.

Life is not only about listening but hearing what GOD has instructed you to do. 

Life is about making hard choices that will either lead you to prosperity or hold you back. 

I chose to move forward without looking.

I heard and linked onto his/her every sing word.

I did not challenge his/her instructions but followed his directions.

I am situated in the space and place that I am in because of my faith. 

I know that if and when the time comes for ascendency then, no question will be formed as to why. 

Today and for now on, I will continue to have faith, the same faith that leads me to where I am.

Tomorrow, I will continue to have the same faith even if it led me down a different path.

So, the answer to the question of “What Do You Do when you have nowhere to turn and no one to lean on? You lean on GOD regardless of his physicality or locality.

“What Do you do when you are left to fight a grievous battle alone? You trust in GOD regardless of his physicality or locality.

Can you fake your own death? When GOD is ready for you to sit on your throne, he will call for you, but in the meantime faking your own death can simply mean eliminating negative and malicious people out of your life. It can and will lead you to better places and a more tranquil mindset.

Never look back to those in the waters that left you to drown. Keep moving forward while continuing to let GOD lead the way.

By Angela Pearce on July 16, 2020

Where do we go from here?

Today as we look around and see how our lives have transpired, some people are not happy. We feel the stresses and strains of life, those that we never thought were possible. Most people have become financially deprived, not by choice, or because they were looking for better opportunities or wanted to start their own business. Not because they did not love their current job or situation. We were forced in financial and economic turmoil, not because our bosses felt that we were not team players, were not the right fit, or because we did not get along with colleagues. Bosses and companies from various entities alike were forced to make the toughest decisions in their lives, even when they had the best leaders, the best staff, team players, family-oriented businesses, and people who got the job done. COVID tied their hands to the point that they could hang on any longer. Yes, various companies are still fully operational (e.g., hospitals and medical facilities, pharmacies, supermarkets, some department stores that supply necessities and essentials). States have started to open nonessential businesses, whereby to reduce the financial stresses of people not knowing where their next meal is coming from or how they are going to pay their rent/mortgages and utilities. Not only are we all in a financial whirlwind, a crisis, a downward spiral, but we are too in a fight for Equality battle worldwide. Even though we did not put ourselves in this situation, we are the only persons that could get ourselves out, so the question that we all should be asking ourselves at this very moment is what can we do to make the situation better for the world we live in, to return to come kind of normalcy, as this unprecedented showstopper is not a preponderance of a select few, the world as a whole is significantly impacted simultaneously. It will take the world as a whole, meaning all persons from all backgrounds (e.g., race, cultural, socioeconomic, gender, age, etc.) to take responsibility to fight the war of this ghostly adversary, restricting human transferability and mutating force.  

What can we do to make the situation better for the world we live in?

It is naturalistic and innate for humans to want to socialize themselves. But what happens when the world faces crises that will limit the availability to socialize, a crisis like the one that we face today, The Coronavirus, a pandemic that has infected millions of humans and killed over a hundred thousand. A ghostly virus that has no plans to deter or subside anytime soon, we as humans have allowed it to feed on our flesh, allowing it to rapidly and silently mutate and transfer from person to person. This gravely and incurable germ continues to fight for survival while most of us, as humans, have let our guards down and refuse to draw our weapons, face masks. Face masks are the only weapon that has been proved to be reliable thus far, as no medications have been deemed successfully to combat this virus and to stop is spreading. Frequent handwashing, using hand sanitizers, is part of this cleaning system, but when people are out and about, most don’t think about washing their hands. We, as humans, people all around the world, not just Americans, need to start abiding by social rules and practice social distancing, wearing masks or other face covering.

Yes, to most, they may be uncomfortable, but just imagine how many lives you could save, even your own and loved ones. I said it before, and I will repeat it. No, we did not get ourselves into this message, but it is going to take a worldly army of humane citizens to get us out of this mess. It is not going to happen overnight, not in the next week or month, but we have to look for the light at the end of the tunnel; otherwise, we will continue to live in darkness and fear. I don’t have the answers. However, it seems that some of the persons that we rely on for leadership haven’t a clue either. If we take a moment to ask ourselves the germane question of what it is that I can do to make the world better, even if you answer is to simply stay put and restrict your outings and to wear your masks when you do go out, you are providing an excellent service to the world. It’s the little and most simple things that count. If you have extra masks and see or know people who don’t have one or cannot afford one, give them face coverings. We all have to do the right things. Otherwise, we’re all screwed, and just because you may have been previously infected with COVID, studies have shown that that does not guarantee that you will not become infected a second time. 

Another thing that we can do, if we have to go out for essentials, is to say “thank you” tor those persons who are readily exposed day in and day out, just to make sure that what we seek is to our avail.  

How did we get here? 

Most people are still pointing the fingers of how we got here. Some blame China. Others blame the UK. Does it really matter? What should matter is, we are here, Corona is here, and from the looks of it, it is not going anywhere, anytime soon. Instead of playing the blame game, we as humans must take action. We must all be our own leaders in our own right to fight a battle that we know we can win. As it states in Isaiah 54:17: “No weapon formed against you shall prosper.” Who’s in charge here? Us or COVID? Are we going to sit back and allow the minuscule particles to kill us and those that we love continually? Are really going to sit on our hand and be silenced. Yes, we are all wearing masks these days, but that does not stop us from being heard. That does not stop us from taking necessary actions and taking precautionary measures. We need to stop trying to figure out how we got here and figure out the dexterities of how we are going to get out of this mess. This is not about emotions, egos, who is right and who is wrong; it is about life sustainability, approachability to civilization, and humanity. 

Will we ever be able to turn this off?

The only way this thing is going away is if we let it kill itself off and stop being its enabler. We must not allow this virus to continue its course of action through human nurturing. Aren’t you tired of seeing people die, even if they are unfamiliar or dissimilar to you? Are you tired of social anxiety or being anxious in general? We are all tired of being stressed, depressed, and being limited by the inability to travel and take vacations? Some people have used their vehicle as escapism, whereby traveling to their neighboring states. Some people have put on a brave face to air travel, some not knowing what they may be getting themselves into. People are engaging in political rallies and protests. To beat the heat some people are going to beaches and have pool parties. For socialization, bar and pub attendances rose, but not necessarily restaurants.

Technology has been a lifeline for most. It has been our primary tool for socialization, learning, pedagogical instructions, social networking, collaboration, to reduce feelings of loneliness, isolation, and to contribute to life satisfaction, and overall physical and psychological well-being. We couldn’t imagine life without technology before this pandemic, as it has become a ubiquitous part of our daily lives and activities. So, could you just imagine what life would be like now in the midst of this crisis? Yeah, we are tired of staring at their computer and phone screens? But, more importantly, we are tired of having our life excursions limited to localities and stay-cations? We can all concur that this was a major screw-up that got out of hand with no off switch or antidote. This is not something that we can just press the reset button on or turn the power off altogether. This is something that is designed to stay on for its entire existence and to acquire its strength from any persons it comes into contact with. The only turn off switch is to heavily rely on scientists and their scramble to find a cure or vaccine. However, in the meantime, we all can act humane and wear our masks. We can continue to practice social distancing and gathering restrictions, wash our hands, and ultimately stay away from unforeseeable and intangible harm. We will find the off switch, one way or another. We must continue to support our front-liners and continue to pray that they [and all people] remain under the covenant of God. We must pray that all persons that seek to protect us and not judge us are also protected and that we show gratitude and respect.

When are things going to go back to normal, or are they?

Of course, we will return to days of normalcy, but with novel and evolutionary perspectives, a new take on life, love, and living. This is a day in time where people are starting to sift through their lives, gaining new connections while losing others. They [We] are reevaluating their meaning of life and taking the necessary actions to come out of this pandemic stronger. Yes, we are in a financial and economic crisis, but we will all have developed a new game plan. It does seem like 2020 is a year of the reckoning, and maybe it is. Maybe God pressed the reset button on the life of all people to prove a point. You can draw your own conclusion of what point that is. When examining things from a personal perspective, things that are happening in the world, are so many things that people have turned a blind eye to. Too many people in the world have continually engaged in bystander’s effects. Too many people have not fought for what they believed in because they harnessed fears of what others would think of them. Too often, people were too petrified to step out of their comfort zone, reach their full potential, and become a self-actualized individual. Too often, people have stood by and watched the life be snatched out of another person for no rhyme or reason. By people being stuck at home and in front of the televisions and subscribers to social networking sites, people were forced to have a wakeup call. They couldn’t sit or stand around and go on about their lives anymore, because they were forced to stand there and take it. To see the unjust, the inequalities, the lack of opportunities, the disparagement among marginalized and impoverished. Those who are seen as a threat and disproportionately human to so many.  

We will achieve normalcy again. But, do we want to go back the way things were, being the same person we were going into this pandemic. Hopefully, not. Hopefully, we will come out stronger, wiser, compassionate, harmonious, undivided, and forever prepared. Most importantly, we must pray that we come out on the life side of this pandemic. We must never dismiss our past. It is a progression tool to use in tandem with our history, present, and future assessments. Some people need to see firsthand their progress because it becomes a testimony of time. Coming out of this pandemic is going to be a testimony for millions of people worldwide. People will disclose to others, how they contracted the virus, but used their immunity defenses to reign champ. This virus has not only affected those contaminated with its plague, but it has affected people of all backgrounds worldwide. Everyone has felt the impact by not only the Corona, but by Black Lives Matter, as it has forced most people to change their view on life, love, and health. It has afforded people the opportunity to change how they do and approach life and others. These current situations have changed us all, some for better, while others for worse. Nonetheless, we will continue to move forward and wait to see the new days to come that are plague-free and to show off our new self so the whole world can see. 

Angela P – Doctor2B

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Have you ever taken the time to reflect on your life, you current living situation and said to yourself this is not me or this is not where I should be. Well I have. Tomorrow, I will be one year older than I was the day before and it seems that nothing in my life and change in a matter or 5 years and it still remains the same. Does that mean that became stuck? Does that mean that I have dug myself into a hole that I cannot get out of? Not necessarily, because we put ourselves in places where we feel the most comfortable, particularly when we lack the motivation, ability, or support to move forward to become a better person. We strive to be the better person that we can be, but how do we know when we reach that point? How do we know when or if we have reached our actual self? Do we feel different? Does it means we feel lighter, less burdensome, more dignified? Is setting goals a way to reach out inner self? Is our actions a predetermining method to release out inhibitions. How do, better yet, how will we ever know that we have reached out full potential when life continually evolve and throw us curve ball, but strip away our bat.

In life we continue to change and channel ourselves. We continue to engage in crab-based interactions, as when we see one person overcoming their barriers we always find ways to pull them back down to that level. What is you were that crab that almost made it out of the barrel but then another crab came and striped that opportunity. Will you continue to shuffle you way around or will you try a different escape route? Will you be that crab that allows another crab to stand on your back, whereby making his or her escapism much more easier and effortless? Or will you be that crab that pulls him or her down just because they did the same to you?

Today, tomorrow, and for the rest of your life, I dare you to challenge yourself. I dare you to challenge your inner strength even in the midst of a pandemic. Will you be the same person you were going in, coming out? Or will you be a better person coming out than when you went in. You are alive and well. You have beat the odd. You have not succumb to what Rona-Rona set in your path. You have shoved her aside, engaged in social distancing, masking wearing, frequent hand washing, and other safe and secure practices.

What have you done today that you did not do yesterday to ensure that you are a better person, starts right here right now. You have to learn to become the master of yourself. You have to learn to be self-directed, self-disciplined, self-determined, and self-motivated, as no one in this world can do things for you in the way that you can. You know yourself better than anyone. You know your strength and your weakness. You know what measures you have to take to strengthen your weaknesses, even if it means tapping into all of your available resources. Be that mastermind that you crave. Be that better person. Be more optimistic. Be what God created you to be. But most of all and most importantly, be yourself.

This is a Corona Challenge… Make a note to yourself today, of who you are today, who you were yesterday, and who you strive to be post-Rona-Rona. If you notice progression from one day to the next, then you have done yourself a good deed. If you don’t see any progress, then you have denied yourself progressive opportunities to become a better you. You have fallen into a fixed cognitive state that only you can pull yourself out of. Yes, life happens and people have various things to deal with, from environmental, marriage, economic, societal discourses, but when we stand firm within ourself and make the necessary moves to navigate turmoil, then we have become our own winner. We have become our own sideline cheerleader. We have become the person who will not take no for an answer answer and will continue to move forward knowing that all is not meant for you and what is meant for you will have its door wide open for you to walk through when you reach that point. The only question in this matter is, are you going to be ready when you get there and are you going to know to just enter without knocking.

The moral of the story is, NOW, more than ever if the time to be your true self. To be your actual self. To be your whole self. To be an expert of yourself. You are the only person on this world that knows you better than anyone. If someone do not know who you are or have a misconception or an inaccurate perceived notion, then tell them who you are without strife or agression. If that person cannot accept your true being, then they should not be in your life in the first place. Always be true to yourself and not fabricate, conform or be fictitous for no one or nothing. Be you, it will take you far.

Have you ever entered into a public setting where almost all individuals were barefaced, even in the midst a toxic pandemic that are killing people? Well, I can truly say that I have been this person who seems like I am the only person wearing a mask, only to look a mask-less people with a side and with disgust.

What do you think the reason behind this is?

1. People don’t care about the safety of themselves or others.
2. People feel as though they are susceptible to contract the virus and transmit it to others. Meaning they feel as though they walk around in an invisible shield or bubble.
3. People are followers. They see others who are not wearing masks, so they feel as though they don’t have to either.
4. People have been infected and feel as though they cannot get the virus a second time.
5. People have the virus, are asymptomatic, and intentionally go out into large crowd unprotected just so that they can transmit the virus to other people.
6. People are selfish, they lack compassion for others. They lack empathy for humanity, love, and life.
7. People are not feelings the pressures of having to wear a mask. Until there have been mandates and penalties set into place, where masks are required, people are not going to possess the common courteous, until they are forced to be law abiding citizens.

What can WE as a SOCIETY do about it?

1. We can personally practice safe measures by wearing our masks.
2. We can avoid coming into contact with others who are not wearing masks, thus practicing social distancing.
3. We can deny people access to our person.
4. Maskless persons can be denied access and service by franchises, restaurants, and stores. GO STARBUCKS on being Anti-Karen or Anti-Karenism (see link: https://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/tips-for-san-diego-starbucks-barista-who-denied-service-to-customer-not-wearing-a-face-mask-nearing-100k/2356533/). NO MASK, NO SERVICE, regardless of their Anti-Masker disposition.
5. We can remind others to wear their mask by not opening out mouths. Here is how… Wear this t-shirt (https://teespring.com/stores/aupearce) when you go out in public to let people know that we, America, is not playing. This virus is serious, nondiscriminating, and now more than ever, is the time so stop behaving selfishly, unrationally, and uncooperatively.

On a Final Note

If we have disposable masks, we can hand them out in communities of people who cannot afford their own, as we have to strategically and methodologically protect our society regardless of which neighborhood you live in, skin color, profession, political ideology, or disabilities. If we all take one step forward to turn our world around for the better, meaning, wearing mask, social distancing, quarantining when necessary, we would allow the Coronavirus to kill itself instead of feeding and becoming strangers and livelier off the flesh of humans who is doings its leg work and phantomly passing it from person to person, espeically in the event that they are unknowingly aware that they have been directly infected.

For those who do go out into public, wearing a t-shirt that reminds people to wear this mask can act as a positive reinforcer, as they are not only protecting the lives of others, but they are protecting themselves as well.

We will see this through.

Angela