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  • A Commitment to…

    Today I become more culpable than ever

    Today I take full responsibility for my actions.

    Today I make a commitment to be my authentic self

    Today I make a commitment to love myself

    Today I make a commitment to be my ethical self

    Today I make a commitment to not cause any undue harm

    Today I commit to being an active and engaged listener.

    Today I commit to being a voice for the underrepresented and underprivileged and overlooked.

    Today I stand in front of you and commit to honesty, integrity, efficiency, and dignity.

    Today I commit to being more mindful they ever before.

    Today and from here on out I will remain more ethically sound than ever before.

    I will not cause undue harm or stress

    I will not commit crime or unlawful act

    I will not engage in malicious acts

    I will not stand by and witness intentional and heinous crime, i.e., I will not succumb the the bystanders effect.

    Today I will commit to uplifting women

    Today I will commit to uplifting all persons

    Today I will commit to the empowerment and proliferation of others

    Today I will commit to non-judgment and non prejudice disposition.

    Today I make a commitment to vote in 2020

    Today I commit to being mentally and physically stronger than I was yesterday.

    Today I commit to hone the power of my inner self.

    Today I commit to uplifting diversity

    Today I commit to treating people like they are all superstars.

    Today I epitomize humanity and civility

    Today I vow to sustain and ascertain a professional and ethical mindset and disposition.

    Today I will not allow others to deter me from reaching my full potential and who I aspire to be

    Today I will not allow others to deter me from achieving my realistic goals

    Today I will not allow others to deter me from being my authentic self

    Today I will not allow others to deter me from standing on my own two feet

    Today I will reduce my inner circle to not be tolerated but accepted.

    Today, tomorrow, and for the rest of my being I commit these words me.

    What is your commitment to yourself and others?

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  • Society for Counseling Psychology

    Dr. Mary O’Leary Wiley recently wrote to all Division 17 Members, as I am a member, the following statement on today September 14, 2020….

    Verbatim…..

    “Dear Society of Counseling Psychology Community,

    “We write to our community to encourage us all to take ongoing and proactive action to address anti-Black racism within ourselves and society. As SCP, we have said it before, and we will say it again: Black Lives Matter! We will continue affirming the inherent dignity of Black individuals and communities everywhere. We continue and will continue to encourage our members to engage in actions to eliminate anti-Black racism, and we have attached numerous resources below. We will continue to affirm Black lives and take action in our communities until the day comes when our justice system, educational system, healthcare system, and political system become anti-racist, and respect and safety is universal for all people.”

    Just a few weeks ago, we saw the police shooting of Jacob Blake, a Black man, in Kenosha, WI and the police murder of Daniel Prude, a Black man in Rochester, New York, who was experiencing a mental health crisis. The ongoing suffering caused by the violence of police officers among Black communities goes against the social justice values that we hold and practice as counseling psychologists. That this violence by white people is occurring only three months after the murders of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor, and in the middle of one of the largest movements for racial justice in U.S. history, makes these deaths all the more shameful. These police-involved shootings and murders of Black people affect all of our members, especially our Black colleagues and our colleagues of color. It affects those we serve as mental health practitioners and educators and affects all Black and Brown people in our country.

    As the Society of Counseling Psychology, we are not absolved of anti-Blackness in our association. We recognize that anti-Black racism exists in the Society of Counseling Psychology (SCP). For instance, we acknowledge that our members did not elect any of the five Black candidates who ran for top leadership positions in SCP this year. We are committed to moving forward and strengthening our Society’s work towards decreasing and eradicating  Anti-Black Racism within ourselves and our organization and helping our members do the same. We will work on this throughout this year and in the future.

    SCP will continue offering racial affinity discussion and consultation groups and all SCP members are welcome to join. Stay tuned for more information about this and other opportunities to engage in the work uprooting anti-Black racism in the year ahead.

    SCP presidential initiatives this year include formation of a group to plan additional workshops and opportunities for us to engage with anti-Black racism work that further builds on our previous work. Counseling psychologists who would like to be part of the planning team for this initiative are invited to complete information at https://forms.gle/UWvGtZkCrpWyuPJ19. This group will assist the SCP Executive Board in creating supportive spaces, educational opportunities and racial accountability structures that will help us assess our processes, procedures, and policies, and to create an action plan for SCP to become more actively anti-racist as an organization. 

    To our Black colleagues, we acknowledge that there is a repeated burden of repeatedly witnessing brutality against Black people and communities. As Dr. Maryam Jernigan-Noesi has so aptly stated, racial trauma is real. Know that as a Society we see you, we stand with you, each and every one of you as Black counseling psychologists matter to us and we aim to ensure we develop ongoing structures and practices that support our commitment.

    We encourage our White colleagues to use this time to learn more, reflect more, and move forward in your understanding of systemic racism (https://abc7news.com/systemic-racism-definition-structural-institutionalized-what-is/6292530/), White supremacy culture (https://coco-net.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Coco-WhiteSupCulture-ENG4.pdf) and determine ways that we can take committed  action  to move toward a more just society.

    We encourage all to engage in learning and unlearning that is Black-led, in-depth, and ongoing. Psychologists, including Counseling Psychologists have studied and written about racism and its impact, which is important literature for all of us.

    ●        Drs. Helen Neville, Carlton Green, Janet Helms  and others have informed our thinking and scholarship on racial trauma (Comas-Diaz, Hall, & Neville, 2019): https://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2019-01033-001.html, (Jernigan, Green, Pérez-Gualdrón, Liu , Henze, Chen, Bazelais, Satiani, Mereish, & Helms, 2015):

    https://www.bc.edu/content/dam/files/schools/lsoe_sites/isprc/pdf/racialtraumaisrealManuscript.pdf ; Comas-Díaz, L. (2016) and  Alvarez, Liang, & Neville (2016)  https://doi.org/10.1037/14852-012

    ●        Drs. Candice Hargons, Anneliese Singh, Bryana French, Della Mosley, and many others have informed our thinking and scholarship on racial healing for all, including clients (French, Lewis, Mosley, Adames, Chaves-Duenas, Chen & Neville, 2020): https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0011000019843506

    http://drcandicenicole.com/services/center-for-healing-racial-trauma/

    https://www.newharbinger.com/racial-healing-handbook

    https://www.aacu.org/trht-campus-centers

    ●        Dr. Hargons has also developed a podcast series “for people who want to become less “ist:”” http://howtoloveahuman.com/, and Drs. Palmer and Hill’s “Naming It” podcast has many excellent conversations related to racial justice and social justice: http://www.namingitpodcast.com/. Drs. Cadenas and Minero recently appeared on the “ Undocumented Black Girl” podcast to discuss cultural competence in mental health at the intersection of race and immigration.

    ●        Dr. Helms’ research has informed our work in racial identity development, and our work with clients and all in society. Her talks and writing are resources for us all:

    (Winter Roundtable, Police Violence and Black Women, 2017) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iAtIN_N7-HE

    (What is Whiteness 2020) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_L86VCxsno

    (A Race is a Nice Thing to Have, 2020) https://titles.cognella.com/a-race-is-a-nice-thing-to-have-9781516583263

    ●        The work of Academics 4 Black Survival and Wellness led by Pearis Bellamy and Dr. Della Mosley is a strong and current step forward and includes many resources https://www.academics4blacklives.com/ . Consider contributing to this organization to support their further work to reach academics across disciplines/professions.

    ●        Black queer and trans-led organizations can help us educate ourselves on the experiences they have related to interlocking oppressions, but also of resilience, and liberation. There are community organizations our SCP communities have supported as part of  in our 75th Anniversary Series – Snap4Freedom and House of Tulip. Watch the webinar titled “When We Fight We Win: Implications for Counseling Psychology from Black Trans Intersectional Liberation Movements” with Toni-Michelle Williams, Mariah Moore, and Jai’ Celestial Shavers at this link.

    ●        Dr. Milo Dodson was recently featured on the APA website for his work: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/04/working-against-racism

    ●        Drs. Helen Neville, Lisa Spanierman and Jioni Lewis provide a model for understanding a disrupting racism and white supremacy (Neville, Spanierman & Lewis, 2012): https://experts.illinois.edu/en/publications/the-expanded-psychosocial-model-of-racism-a-new-model-for-underst 

    Here are some additional resources beyond SCP for how we can learn from others, build coalitions, and take action to uproot anti-Blackness, and take steps towards becoming anti-racist:

    ●        Understand that there is a difference between being “not racist” and actively pursuing “anti-racism.” Renowned author Ibram X. Kendi explains this in a recent TED Talk:

    https://www.ted.com/talks/ibram_x_kendi_the_difference_between_being_not_racist_and_antiracist?language=en 

    ●        Non-Black people of color (Latinx, Asian, and Indigenous), recognize that anti-Blackness and colorism also exist within racial and ethnic groups that are minoritized in the United States, and within groups that have experienced historical oppression. The following resources and toolkits may serve to challenge anti-Blackness within these communities:

    ●        Hector Adames, Nayeli Chavez and their research team’s Toolkit for Non-Black Latinxs https://twitter.com/NYChavez/status/1298976695228289025/photo/1

    ●        Marissa Floro and Stephanie N. Wong’s Fighting Anti-Blackness In AAPI Communities https://www.div17.org/wp-content/uploads/Fighting-Anti-Blackness-in-AAPI-Communities.pdf

    ●        UC Boulder’s Confronting Anti-Black Racism in POC, Indigenous, and Marginalized Communities https://www.colorado.edu/wgst/confronting-anti-black-racism

    ●        As non-Black POC, we need to address anti-Blackness: https://www.indianz.com/News/2020/08/03/ana-cecilia-perez-as-nonblack-poc-we-nee.asp

    ●        Become conscious of the link between anti-Blackness and anti-immigrant sentiment, and of the ways that the immigration system is racialized against people of color. The Refugee and Immigrant Center for Education and Legal Services (RAICES) shows how Black lives are under attack through the immigration system:

    https://www.raicestexas.org/2020/07/22/black-immigrant-lives-are-under-attack/

    ●        Support the Movement for Black Lives and join these efforts in any way that is possible for you. This movement is led by those who are most impacted, and as counseling psychologists we recognize the need to follow those at the forefront of this struggle: https://m4bl.org/

    ●        Understand what defunding the police means as a reparative action to limit support for policing practices that disproportionately target and negatively impact Black and Brown communities:

    https://www.aclu.org/news/criminal-law-reform/defunding-the-police-will-actually-make-us-safer/ 

    https://www.brookings.edu/blog/fixgov/2020/06/19/what-does-defund-the-police-mean-and-does-it-have-merit/

    ●        Watch powerful performances by Black artists: Here’s one poet’s performance that was especially meaningful: https://youtu.be/WuwwSYZyu2w

    Last but not least, VOTE this November! As counseling psychologists, we recognize the role of policy and policymakers in sustaining or transforming systems that perpetuate violence in Black communities. Although while SCP as a 503-c tax exempted organization cannot suggest who to vote for in the upcoming election, we strongly encourage our members to vote if this right is available to them, and to become informed on the candidates’ stances on issues of race and police violence. Please remember that all elections matter, including elections at the local level (city, town, municipality, state) where most decisions about policing are made:

    https://projects.fivethirtyeight.com/how-to-vote-2020/

    https://www.vote.org/

    Society of Counseling Psychology Executive Board

    “September 14, 2020Mary O’Leary Wiley, PhD, ABPPBoard Certified Counseling PsychologistPresident, Society of Counseling Psychology (Division 17 of the American Psychological Association)Fellow, American Psychological Association, Divisions 17 and 42www.wileypsychologist.com
    Pronouns: she/her/hers”

    MY TAKE

    I am elated that this message was sent, as black and colored people cannot rectify the racist issues or any other ‘-ist’ situations with EVERYONE playing an active role. This message is only a fraction of being more knowledgeable of how to possess an anti- disposition and to treat others the same way that you wish to be treated, with respect and dignity. America and all other countries are supposed to be the land of the free and the home of the brave. However, when examining the nature of blacks lives, all all other nonwhite lives people have been living in a juxtaposed and sequestered world of the unfree and the home of fearfulness and unpleasantries.

    Even with the death of George Floyd piercing tyke pupils and mental capacity of people worldwide, police brutality and the death of blacks are still inevitable.

    Police are granting vigilantes power and authorities to shoot people dead in the street without retaliatory actions or consequence.

    We all must take a stand, if not now then when. We all have biases that is ok. We all do. However that does not give us the outright permission to shot a person in cold blood or sit and watch while others do and think it’s ok.

    STOP 🛑 ✋ being afraid to speak up for what YOU believe in even if it goes against the judgement of others.

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  • A Vivid Rememberance of the 9/11 terrorist attack

    I can still remember vividly where I was and what I was doing when the 9/11 attack occurred. Being a Supervisor of an IT Support groups in Michigan. I sait at my desk and sporadically peeking up to watch the morning news on a corner mounted television while simultaneously getting work done, reports a little before 9:00am showed how a bowing jet flew into one of New Yorks twin tower.

    Not really sure of what was going on and listening while the television was muted, I decided to turn up the volume. The moment the volume reach an ear piercing level, the second plane had hit the second twin tower. By that time there was a crowd standing around the television set, everyone motionless, speechless and in awe.

    After listening to the news, moments later it was determined by upper management that it was time to vacate the premisesk and with me being the supervisor of my team, I made it my civil duty to ensure that all employees had gathered their belongings and headed for the hills as our location was in a high-rise building sitting in the middle of downtown Detroit just across from major federal buildings and even the Federal Reserves, so who knew what the next target would be.

    After checking once, and then checking twice to ensure that all employees had departed, I emotionless and calmly gathered my things and headed for the staircase to exit the lower entrance. When I reached the exterior of the building the streets were in chaos. People were running and scrambling the streets. Traffic was backed up due to most people trying to exit the downtown scene full of terrorist potential to carry out a malicious act, the same one that occurred just moments earlier in the city of New York City.

    As you can see, I made it out safely and no harm was done to the downtown Detroit area. Shout out to the D!… GO BLUE! GO LIONS! GO TIGERS!

    Successfully existing the downtown area, it was mandated that children be picked up from school, of which I made every effort to across town safe and sound. Getting home my children and I sat glued to the television set for the remainder of the day, and the day after, and the day after… Work was canceled until further notice and so was other outdoor activities that would present potential harm.

    In this moment, I wish to given my condolences to all of the persons and family members who were affected by the worlds most devastating terrorist attach in history. Each year, and for most, everyday, we will remember the innocent lives and soldiers, and other rescuer that we taken to the hands of malicous intent. You are not but never forgotten. I know that I did not know any of the person who lost their lives or loved one, but with being human, I cannot help but feel their pain, have sympathy and compassion, and silently support them.

    In 2020, we are facing a worldwide pandemic. One that has claimed the lines of over 190,000 individuals and climbing. It is not a terrorist attach but it sure as heck feel like one, given that the CoronaVirus came from China, a country that does not see eye to eye with the United States.

    Sticking to the script, again, my heartfelt condolences to those person effect. Keep your head up and know that better days are among us, we just have to continue to stay strong and support one another no matter what.

    United We Stand and Divided We Fall. Let’s stop stop being our own worst enemies and this goes for people all around the world. Love override any pain and suffering one could every encounter.

  • Awwww…. You Guys 🥳🙏🏽💃🏿

    I would like to say thank you to all of you who have supported me since I started blogging. You guys have shown me nothing but love and support during this blogging journey. You have accepted me into the Blog family without question and I thank you and appreciate each and every one of you for that.

    I will continually provide content and support yours.

    Again, thank you, Everyone.

    Au’Pearce

  • Business Venture: Au’Pearce Coaching Services, Inc.

    Today I decided to step out and go on a Business venture. I have to decided to start a Life Coaching Business that could caters to those person who experience self-doubt and are not sure as to which direction they want to go in life. I will also provide grieving services to those individuals who have been diagnosed with terminal illnesses and their family members and to aid in making the best of situation and finding constructive methods of talkimg about death, as its inevitable to life.

    I decided to do this because I figure, I wanted to do some for others who experience life uncertainty. No, this is to say that I have life figured but I have incurred life experiences that I can share with others. And who want to clock in or live under others for the rest of their life. Its time to get out and GET YOUR OWN, or as Jeffrey Gitomer would say, “GET SH*T DONE.”

    We all go through things, and sometimes we need that listening ear, an ear or shoulder without judgment. This is me. This WILL be the basis of my operations. I have set a launch date for January 1, 2021, as I plan on taking things to a new level, and will too be launching a RAW and UNFILTERED Self help book that will help others to get off there stoop or go away with their snailish ways and to NOT continually accept no for an answer. We all strive for perfect, or something close to it. We all strive to get what we deserve in life and if you feel that you don’t deserve happiness, health, equality and overall life satisfaction then you are living the wrong life and that is what has been holding you back all this time.

    BE YOURSELF

    FORGET WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU

    STOP LIVING UP TO OTHERS POTENTIAL AND START LIVING FOR YOURSELF.

    BECOME SELF-ACTUALIZED

    PUT THE PIECES TO THE PUZZLE TOGHETER IN YOUR LIFE AS YOU SEE THEY FIT.

    As a life coach who have went through training programs and who have obtained a masters degree in life coaching I will ensure that you are protected and no exposed to any undue harm or malicious intents. I strive to make sure that all persons who come into this program leave out a better being. Each individual circumstance will be treated uniquely and there will be jointed efforts.

    Living does not mean barely living.

    Living means FULLY LiVING and with that I am here to help.

    Please reach out if a coach is needed as my practice WILL ETERNALLY be grounded by ethical guidelines and standards, particularly those on the bases of the American Psychological Association.

    I AM HERE TO HELP.

    REACH OUT… NO PRESSURE.

    Stay tuned for official website and services….