Yesterday, November 23rd would have marked 72 years – and the inability and denial to complete life.
The majority of yesterday, I felt extremely sad.
Today is Thanksgiving, yet, it marks 4 months – 4 months that has resulted in everyday and those following, being filled with great sadness, heartbreak, loneliness, and immense pain.
Today marks 4 months of experiencing love and loss simultaneously – a feeling that I wish no one in this world would ever experience. However, this is a result of the unexplained, unimaginable, unpredictability, and the inevitable.
Today, marks 4 months that reminds me to be thankful for every single life encounter, no matter how big, minuscule, rewarding, or devastating.
Today, on Thanksgiving Day, November 24, 2022. I am extremely thankful and grateful for life and love. I am thankful that I was given the opportunity to fall in love with my soulmate and give my soulmate the opportunity to fall in love life never before. My soulmate was a person that God charismatically and purposefully placed in my life for a reason and what seems like just for a little while.
Recently, I have been unhappy, angry, emotionally challenged, exhausted, loved, appreciated, and worried. However, I continually find the strength to get up each and every morning to accomplish something in life, each and every day, even if it’s big or small. My life’s objective has been to always show up in welcomed and uninvited territory, with and without permission.
I so many ways I try to overcome the unexplained and unpredicted even though I know that these are situations that I cannot control.
In so many ways, I take this time to wish you all the best and happiest thanksgiving and wish that we would take the time to appreciate love and one another.
Happy Thanksgiving.
Stop trying to explain was is predetermined and inevitable. It will make our lives so much more easier and stress free. However, I too know that we are all human and these will be extremely difficult tasks to accomplish.
Today many people will celebrate July 4th, or what is considered Independence Day.
This is a day that many people are supposed to be brave, happy, in a celebratory mood, without riffraff; without drama; without death by terror or massive shootings.
Today is the day where many people attend house/backyard barbecues, block parties, parades, neighborhood parks, and enjoy fireworks displays. Most adults are drinking their spirits of choice responsibly. Children are playing among themselves. Individuals are dressed in their red, white, and blue attire. Mostly, individuals are engaged with others on a positive front. These engagements are filled of laughter, storytelling, shared experiences, social support, and feelings of social connectedness and belongingness.
On this day, the Fourth of July, for all persons that are do-gooders, who have fought and continues to fight a good fight, those that care about Americans, its culture, inclusivity, its diversification, and its ability that allows individuals to reach new heights and to fully embrace who they are, and yearn to be without feelings of embarrassment, entitlement, ridiculed, ostracism, or being overlooked, I salute you.
You have shown American what a true America looks like. A person who does not have any ill-intent, and who are not judgmental, and one that sees another person potential.
Today is the Fourth of July and we celebrate with fireworks.
Let this not be the day that we end our celebration, but we celebrate every day of the year, day in and day out, by appreciating who we are, those different and familiar.
Let this be the day that we channel our inhibitions or cognitive biases, to state that we are better and we will do better. We will continue to fight a good fight so that Americans are all equal, as defined by the God.
I wish all Americans and all non-Americans a very happy celebration and living a life that is true to self, thus being without judgement, or casting out others due to their unfamiliarity or difference. We as humans are better and know that we can do better.
Think for “yourself”, not caring what others will think of you. This is the only way that the world will heal.
Happy Fourth of July Americans, and Happy Day to everyone else…. Today, tomorrow, yesterdays, and for all days to come.
We are good human.
We are righteous.
We care for one another.
We love one another.
Most importantly, we love one another, wholeheartedly.
LET US ALL ENJOY THIS MOMENT AND CELEBRATE JUNETEENTH LIKE ITS JUNE 19TH FOR THE REMAINDER OF OUR EXISTENCE….
GO DRINK AND ENGAGE IN WHATEVER PLEASURABLE PROCLIVITIES YOU WISH, BUT RESPONSIBLY.
KNOW THAT WE WILL CONTINUE TO BE TOGETHER, UNITED, AND AS ONE.
WE WILL CONTINUE TO STAND UP FOR OUR RIGHTS AND OUR FREEDOM.
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LET US NOT PAUSE AND HAVE A MOMENT OF SILENCE FOR THOSE WHO FOUGHT OUR BATTLE, THE SAME ONE WE CONTINUE TO FIGHT TODAY.
LET US STAND UP AND REJOICE AND LIFT OUR VOICES IN WAYS THAT WE THOUGHT WAS IMPOSSIBLE.
LETS REMEMBER THAT THIS WORLD DO NOT BELONG TO A SINGLE BEING, SINGLE CLASS, SINGLE RACE OR ETHNICITY.
KNOW THAT WE ARE WERE ALL MADE TO BE UNIQUE AND DIVERSE. I mean what two people want to be the same. Even identical twins possess unique characteristics that sets them a part from one another.
WE ALL WERE BORN TO BE RISING AND SHINING STARS.
NOT JUST ON THIS DAY, JUNETEENTH, BUT EVERY DAY, WE CAN SAY THAT WE DO MATTER. BLACK LIVES MATTER. HUMAN LIVES MATTERS. OUR CHILDREN MATTER.
We are still discussing the topic: What does your life look like, futuristically, when you put your past, present, and past experiences behind you?
Look. I was going to go on and on about what you think your life would look like if you could erase specific memories. But if we examine the full scope of human lives and how we are wired, there is no way to erase these memories unless you develop a rare case of amnesia, and that may not be fun because then the good memories are gone as well. Put the eraser and whiteout down. In life, there is no backspace, delete, or easy buttons. The mistakes, imperfections, and challenges we faced then and those we will experience now and futuristically will be a part of who we are. These experiences are interwoven into what it means to be our authentic selves.
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We have always heard the cliché “choose wisely,” but in certain aspects of life, your situations and circumstances are chosen for you. How you deal with, maneuver, and overcome these life complexities matters. Understand that in life, there will be makeshift moments. Also, give recognition to the truth of the matter that we must live by the cliché “life is not easy.” Why because it is NOT.
Everything we do in life should present challenges and complexities. We should all fail at some point in life. If you have not failed, that means you have not tried. That means you have not experienced the true definition of life.I mean, have you been paying attention. I reminded you a few lines up that there was no easy button.
No erasers in the world are powerful enough to obliterate your memories, except for particular head traumas and possibly age. I am sure you will agree that we do not wish to have these two erasers in our toolbox, whereas the aging process is inevitable. In most cases, we all remember what we want to remember, and we remember things how we want to remember them, but that only means they happened to or in front of us. We must never let our negative experiences overshadow our positive experiences. Living with the intent to live a good, happy, and healthy life means accepting the good, bad, and ugly, especially those we can control.
While there may still be regrets and uncherished moments, I have fallen in love with and have learned to appreciate my past. Regarding my past engagements, I have developed a pragmatic disposition and have chosen not to be dogmatic about what did occur but will stay vigilant to what will happen. Why? Because I now know that those disconcerting and pleasant experiences have resulted in me becoming my current person and will forever play a significant role in how I maneuver throughout life from here on out. I have become coupled with my involvements and discernments of life, love, laughter, happiness, success—and unsuccessfulness.
In truth, I have realized that if we took a step back and pontificated on the question, “what does my life look like if I could erase unwanted or bad memories,” your life will be full of holes, incomplete goals, and possible foes and faux friends. Erasing specific components of your life happenings or happenstances may make you feel unfulfilled and empty. You may also experience diminished self-authentication, life dissatisfaction, and poor subjective well-being.
If you were to evaluate your current life situations, there would be some moving parts that you may not be happy or satisfied with and may even detest. But this is your life. You and only you are responsible for living it—no one else. If you don’t like something, then change it. After all, you have the civil right and duty to be happy. While some involvement has restrictions and must be deemed societally appropriate, you must find ways to boost your well-being, life satisfaction, and longevity.
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Create experiences, good and bad ones. Be a manifestation of your experiences, the good and bad ones. Learn from your past experiences—don’t erase them. Unquestionably, you will face life adversities; use them to your advantage and become that better person you desire and deserve to be. Afterall, experiences are who we are, were, and will become.
Experiences fit the characteristics and social dynamisms of what it means to be a human being. I thought I wanted to erase specific memories from my past. But I don’t—and neither should you. Yes, we’ve had unpleasant life experiences, but erasing them is not the right approach to deal with them. We must understand that we as individuals have the decision to choose to leave our past behind. I mean, the past, by definition, is something that is gone in time and no longer exists. Hint, hint, gone and no longer exist—your eraser.
So, I have decided to leave my past in the past. I have decided to move forward with my life and to create my own happiness, as you should. Past experiences have taught us everything we now know. Whatever was then has constructed us into being our present and authentic selves. We have learned valuable life lessons, as our todays become our tomorrows. We will have gained more knowledge and experience. We will have become wiser, even though what we have learned is a result of our past. So, I beg of you, put the erasers down. Don’t erase your past. Embrace it because it’s now part of who you are and becoming. Don’t erase your past. Continue to create new memories—remembrances that are gone and no longer exist but still give you reasons to laugh and cry, silently and out loud.
We are still discussing the topic: What does your life look like, futuristically, when you put your past, present, and past experiences behind you?
… Just because your moral compass has majorly deposited experiences into your psyche and used this as a tool for navigating life doesn’t mean you are in control of yourself. So many people wish to change things in their lives, something that they have experienced, but like it or not, you cannot. You cannot escape life experiences no matter how hard you try to forget them.
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Some people wish loved ones back into their lives or wish they had never met certain characters. Some people account for specific experiences, while others may deny them. What we must realize is that our every encounter has meaning. Some human exchanges and experiences are good, while others are unpleasant. Some people use their good or bad experiences for good, while others use them diabolically, but these encounters taught us life lessons. Physical interactions are a mainstay of how we maneuver in life. They have become a part of who we are, our characters. They have assisted with the shaping and reshaping of our personalities. Life experiences have taught us about ourselves, our likes and dislikes, have to deal with happy and stressful times, the foreseeable and the inevitable.
Although we as humans are social creatures, our experiences have also taught us how to be alone and not feel lonely or isolated. Our adventures continue to be driving forces in our lives. The engagements that many so lovingly enjoy and even those we wish never existed have made navigating life easier and resulted in how we embrace or deal with new encounters and social networks.
So, look around. What would my life look like if I had the mental capacity or brain power to erase specific past experiences forever? Do you think your mental purge of past experiences would result in a perfect present and future?
What if you choose to erase something or someone that resulted from you reaching specific goals or overcoming particular life challenges. At some point in your life, these past experiences had meaning, even if they were undesirable or unpleasant. We state the claims that we only want to focus on positive experiences and not ruminate on the negative ones, but what most of us do not realize is that most of those negative experiences are a result of us being who we are today, but wait…
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