Author: Au’Pearce

  • Loss, EQ, and You

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  • Having all of the right ingredients: But does it equate to Happiness and Life Satisfaction

    For months, I have not been able to discern happiness, life longevity, or positive outcomes. In various respects, I didn’t care and still don’t because I didn’t feel that others cared about my life and what happiness meant, whereas I now see my life as being more challenging than I ever anticipated. 

    While I still cannot see happiness progressions in my life, I cannot help but ask poignant questions, “has anyone ever reached a point in their lives where they feel they have applied all the right ingredients and the outcome or end results have led to them feeling successful or experiencing life perfection?  

    I ask these questions because I am seeking input. I am seeking direction, not to say that what worked for you will work for me.

    Have you, as an individual, given your life your all?

    Have you ever reached a point in your life where your life is working for you, and you are not working for it? Are you at this point presently? I am curious because I have not reached either point. So, if you have, please share your experiences and what this looks like.

    I was recently asked the question, what does happiness look like now and in the near future. I was also asked to provide my viewpoint of what happiness entailed now and in the near future. In all truth, I could define happiness. However, I could not define happiness as it relates to my personal life and current life circumstances. But, definitively, happiness is the mental state of being happy, possessing a positive disposition, and being able to constructively overcome life happenstances and adversities.  

    When situationally and inherently asked to define happiness, I hesitated, went into a mental funk, and faced a mental stumble when attempting to answer those questions because I did not know the answers. The only happiness I could relate to is the happiness from the past, as I cannot foresee or suggest what future happiness will look like or if it will ever exist.

    The question I am trying to answer here is, what does happiness mean and look like to you?

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    Are you happy with your life choices?

    Are you happy with the hands that you have been dealt?

    Are you able to stay afloat when you feel your heart is sinking?

    If you could change anything in your life, what would it be?

    If you made these changes, do you think they are applicable or aligned with what God has planned for you?

    Before you answer these questions, know that no two persons are alike.

    Know that the life God has planned for you could be monumental and may result in you taking detours or going down roads you thought never existed.  

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    So the question is, what does happiness look like to you?

    How do you define happiness?

    What does the keys to happiness look like and who have you granted access or who have you put in the position of power to help you define what happiness means to you as an individual?

    What ingredients have you applied so far, and have they worked?

    Inquiring minds want to know.

    Dr. Pearce #aupearce #happiness #questions #foregiveness #2024 #courage #motivation #life #positive

  • Crying As A Process of Healing and Healthiness

    Today, I went through my blog drafts and found this little puppy sitting pretty, waiting for me to hit the publish button. This is a post that I started constructing in 2021, never realizing that this would be something that I would be subjected to several months later. I think this blog mentally surfaced after experiencing loss and social isolation.

    Anyhow, the blog goes something like this:

    Crying is a process of shedding tears.

    Crying is a process of showing your emotions.

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    Weeping is a process of displaying hurt.

    Crying is a process of exuding vulnerability.

    Crying is a process of expressing despair and anger.

    Weeping is a method of exhibiting disappointment.

    Crying is also a method of displaying happiness, joyfulness, and excitement.

    Crying is a process of inside-out healing.

    Crying is a process of releasing much-needed endorphins that make you feel good, generate a sign of relief, and help reduce pain. 

    Crying can reduce stress and anxiety levels.

    Crying is a curing method for anxiety and panic attacks.

    The chemicals generated and released into our bodies result from our bodies trying to heal healthily.

    We all cry—some more than others.  

    When we first came out of the wombs, the first sounds we made were a result of us crying.

    Babies cry expressingly and arbitrarily. Babies cry and weep all the time. Their cries are callouts when they experience dismay, hurt, pain, hunger, and discomfort.

    Crying

    Just because we grow up does not mean we stop crying. Generally speaking, we should cry out more often than we do.

    When we all die, the last sound we make, whether aloud or silently, will be a result of us crying.

    Most people find that crying generates red and puffy eyes, facial wrinkles, and fine lines.

    Crying is one of the most precious methods that help show and prove that humans are living or gaining life experiences. 

    More importantly, crying is a sign that humans also feel life as a result of being alive.

    When you cry, you take your body through the most natural healing processes. You allow your tears to be an escapism that releases positive and negative emotions, displayed for the world to see. 

    You allow your body and brain the opportunity to heal from stress and anxiety-related hormones and other [ill]feelings.

    I beg of you to cry. Cry, my children. Feel life. Allow life to spill out onto the surfaces of your face.

    Cry when you are happy and even when you are sad. Never be too embarrassed to cry. Never be too self-conscious to weep. Weeping is a part of life. Never suppress your emotions for the benefit of others, as it will result in self-defeat and punishment.

    Cry.

    Cry as long as you want.

    Cry as hard as you need to.

    Cry for no reason.

    Cry for various reasons.

    Cry from the heart.

    Cry silently, proudly, and loudly.

    Our healing starts from within. Therefore, crying cannot be avoided.

    Just cry – but cry unapologetically because one thing is for sure: no one ever runs out of tears.

    Dr. Pearce #aupearce #crying #wholesome #healing

  • January 25, 2024

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    Today [and every day], you should always unapologetically engage in behaviors that result in doing what you love and removing people from your life who have no interest in respecting and helping you protect your peace and happiness. 

    Dr. Pearce #aupearce #love #unapologetic #self-care #life #peace #respect #happiness

  • Thought of the Day 01/10/2024

    If ever you wish for your life to change, always ensure that it is a change for the better.

    Dr. Pearce #aupearce

  • Short & Sweet: Life vs. Living

    Life.

    Life is something that everyone and everything is entitled to. Yet, life is something that we all struggle with and find perplexing.

    Life is something that most individuals take advantage of or never find the value of.

    Life is something most of us give up on or give others control of.

    LIVE!

    Living is something that most persons are granted the opportunity to experience, whereas others are denied.

    Live with Purpose = living purposefully + found life satisfaction + life flourishing.

    Live without Hesitation.

    Live indiscriminately. 

    Live inclusively.

    Live colorlessly.

    Live freely.

    Live for you and no one else.

    Live unapologetically.

    Live without Regret.

    Why not JUST LIVE!

    Why not live?

    If you die internally, you deny yourself the opportunity to live psychologically and authentically. 

    If you die extrinsically, there is no going back, meaning you have denied yourself the chance of ever coming back to living this thing we call life, or physiologically living. 

    Please enjoy life, especially as life is for the living.

    Please live life while it provides you with the opportunity to live.

    In short, live the life you yearn to live and the life you have been blessed with for however long it lasts.

    Once you die, intrinsically and externally, there is no going back unless it is by the graces of GOD or other higher powers.

    GOD BLESS us all, the living and the nonliving.

    all…the…best AND …respectfully

    Au’Pearce (Dr. Pearce)